Shared human experiences

Dear Friends (scroll to the bottom for resources),

In today's world, it's easy to get lost in the turmoil of differences. We seem to forget our shared human experiences, our mutual hopes, fears, and dreams. It's in these times that empathy, the ability to share and understand the feelings of others, becomes vital.

As I reflect on my own journey, I've felt a growing sense of anger. I'm angry about the way marginalised kids are treated in our justice system. I'm angry about the insatiable greed of big businesses while so many people suffer. The rising interest rates, increasing housing stress, vacant houses in my street - they all fuel my anger. The lack of empathy shown for people who died at sea off a refugee boat near Greece compared to the attention given to explorations of the Titanic. The constant focus on the lives of the rich while so many are going through tough times. My anger also extends to myself, for not having done more.

Yet, in the face of this anger, I've realised that empathy can be a transformative response. Research has shown that empathy is a powerful force that not only maintains social order and cooperation but also strengthens relationships, decreases aggression and judgment, and even enhances mental and physical health.

It is this transformative power of empathy that I want to harness in my life and my work. I've come to recognise that active listening is a crucial part of empathy. In every conversation, I strive to truly understand the feelings and experiences of others​. I've learned that empathy is about immersing myself in their emotions, stepping into their shoes​.

I also realise the importance of vulnerability in this journey. By sharing my own emotions, I create opportunities for others to empathise with me, strengthening our connections and deepening my commitment to empathy​.

I've learned that empathy goes beyond understanding - it's about action. When we empathise, we don't just share the pain, we're in a position to help. We can identify what others need and offer meaningful support​.

In the coming months, I want to challenge myself to be even more empathetic, to see and validate the experiences of others. I want to foster a culture of empathy in my personal and professional interactions, and express this through the lens of my camera and the power of my words.

I extend this challenge to you as well. Let's transform our anger into empathy, our frustration into action. Let's listen deeply, share openly, and act with compassion. Together, we can contribute to a more understanding, compassionate, and inclusive society.

With love,

BK

Additional reading and resources

Here are some of the books i have been reading:

1. "Empathy: Why It Matters, and How to Get It" by Roman Krznaric: This book provides a detailed exploration of the concept of empathy and offers practical strategies for how to become better at empathizing with others.

2. "The Art of Empathy: A Complete Guide to Life's Most Essential Skill" by Karla McLaren: This book offers insights into how to become more empathic and compassionate.

3. "The Empathy Exams" by Leslie Jamison: A series of essays that engage with empathy and understanding.

4. "The Age of Empathy: Nature's Lessons for a Kinder Society" by Frans de Waal: This book discusses the importance of empathy in today's world.

5. "Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential — and Endangered" by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz: The authors argue that empathy is not just beneficial but essential to human happiness.

6. "The War for Kindness: Building Empathy in a Fractured World" by Jamil Zaki: This book discusses the importance of empathy for survival in the 21st century.